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Life Gets Better Tomorrow

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Tonight, I felt inclined to share my thoughts and feelings about my personal life.

Some people might call me brave.
Some people might call me stupid; because hereforth, I will be labelled as different.
When my friends mention me to their friends, I would probably be described as “gay”.
Some might think that I am just juvenile and confused, not knowing what I want at the age of 27.
There would also be some people, like many of you, who would think that being different is not a big deal.
Because we are all free to love who we are, and gender does not matter.

If you are one of few, thank you.

Someone once told me that straight people are just lucky because they belong to the majority.
Putting aside who is in the majority and who is not,
have you ever thought about why most of us think that being straight is normal while being gay is not?
Who decides what is normal and what is not?
The society?

The society and our education taught us to compartmentalize and differentiate things.
And our upbringing instills various sets of beliefs in us.
Why must all the baby girls wear pink? And boys blue?
Who decided that pink is a feminine colour?
Why are boys supposed to like cars and girls should play with dolls?
Why is it normal for girls to wear makeup and abnormal when guys want to have their nails painted?

Wouldn’t it be nice if we could forget all about the societal rules and standards for a while?

Being in love is a feeling.
There is no right or wrong feeling.
Like how you hate eating capsicums – there is nothing right or wrong about it.
The same goes for love.
Because love IS love.
We cannot judge someone for hating something we love
Neither can we judge them because they love something we hate.

Peel away the layers of pre-concieved notions about what is right and what is not,
we are all human beings – born to have feelings for people and things.
We are all different and we are all free to love.

“Coming out” to the LGBT people means disclosing their sexual orientation or gender identity.
I once read an article saying that it should not be called “coming out”, but “coming home” instead.
That is so very true.

Knowing and coming to terms with who you are is such a brave and honest thing a person can do.
At the end of the day, one should be rejoicing with the fact that one has finally found oneself,
and not worry about how one needs to face the world from then on.
Afterall, who knows for sure how or what one’s future would be like from Day One?

For me, I did not come out of the closet at all – because I was never in one.
It was the unconditional love and support from my family and friends who gave me the courage to be myself.
I never felt that there was a reason to hide because being able to love is such a wonderful gift.
Because of love, we were created.
Because of love, our parents did not give up on us even when we were not the child they envisioned us to be.
Because of love, we accept our partners even though they were not even close to the person we have in mind
when we were writing down our “My Dream Lover” criteria.
Because of love, we could never allow ourselves to be mad at our dog for too long after they just peed on the door mat.
And because love is such a powerful and natural thing for every human being,
how could anybody bring themselves to despise or ostracize another person because of who or what they love?

Yes. There were, and will always be people who are not too happy with where myself,
and millions of other LGBT people are now.
But it does not matter because someday, they will grow to understand that we are all humans and we love the same way.
And hopefully, that someday will not take too long to come.

I am sure every single person reading this has heard of or personally knows someone who is a LGBT.
Let them know that you are proud to be in their lives, and let them know that you support the freedom to love too.

Pink Dot 2012 will be happening at the end of this month and I can’t wait to be part of this event.
And I want to be there because I support the Freedom to Love.
One day, someday, there would be no person too fearful to disclose his or her sexual orientation.
Someday, we will all be equal –
regardless of gender, regardless of race, culture or social status.

Come have a night picnic at the Pink Dot and feel the love if you are free too!

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Let us show Singapore that we support the freedom to love,
and there is no need for anyone to hide because we are all the same.
Peace xx

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  1. a very well-said meaningful post. life is too short to always live under ppl’s expectation. Being in love and contented are indeed a gift which shouldn’t shadowed by others judgements.

    be everything you dream to be, not everything others want you to be. πŸ™‚ cheers!


  2. Cindy says

    Hi peggy,

    you are brave and your love is beautiful.

    i am not sure why, but i feel rather emotional watching the videos shared in your post.

    I have yet met or found love. but i truly believe that it should be beautiful in any “form”.

    πŸ™‚ good luck and thanks for sharing.



  3. Horse says

    U r really very very blessed to have supportive friends and family.
    All the best. U reminded me that a lot of times, we lack guts to be ourselves.
    We conform to society (by 30, get married & have kids) because we couldn’t handle the stress from friends and family, and the many kaypo relatives. I really hope your article brings awareness to people, remember to have courage and confidence, to be true to themselves.
    And those oh-I-am-normal people can go fark themselves cos I really don’t understand why they think they are right about anything to give advice to people.


  4. Silver says

    Hi Peggy,
    I have been following your blog for a while now. Your posts always inspire me– very genuine and sincere. This time I feel compelled to post a comment to show my support and to tell you that:
    In love, never see a partner as male or female. But rather, as a simple human being with a beautiful inside ( character/ personality ) and someone who makes you feel complete and most importantly– happy.

    I think you have found this person πŸ™‚

    I wish you all the happiness in the world!
    Stay happy and real always!


  5. yea, you are right. love has no judgement, regardless of gender, age, race, outlook, tall, short. love is simply just a strong desire to be with someone no matter women or men. im a gay too. two previous failed r/s with women still do not deter me from having feelings for the same gender. we are born this way. and am most glad that all my parents say is: as long as you are happy πŸ™‚ my utmost blessing to you and A. keep the love going..


  6. Catty says

    Hi, Peggy

    I know this sound random, but do you mind sharing some of A’s style. I like her androgynous look. It’s cool.

    Well hope to see you at the Pink dot too ! πŸ˜€

    Cheers !


  7. Vanessa says

    Hi Peggy,

    This is the best written post I’ve ever read from you, besides the one about your journey with A & for being an avid reader of yours for so long.

    It’s great to know how much love can do for each & every one of us.

    See you at Pink Dot 2012! πŸ˜€


  8. Trex says

    Why is being straight normal and being gay not?

    Because of evolution.

    If everyone is gay, there will not be offsprings in this world and no one to continue the human race. This will defy the whole works of evolution. There will not even be love because there won’t be humans.

    I am not against gays nor bear any hatred to them. But unfortunately I can’t bring myself to say that being gay is normal. Just like how we empathize and want to care for the disabled, their disability in scientific terms is not a norm of homosapiens.

    We shouldn’t deny the difference when we see one. But what we need to learn is to accept the difference when we see one.


  9. Kavitha says

    Dear Peggy,

    We are of the same age. But you are definitely braver than I am. I have been in a same-sex relationship for 7 years and counting (Love her!!) and alot of people think I am confused, immature, do not know what love really is..etc. It fustrates and hurts me alot..

    Your post brought tears to my eyes and definitely some hope and courage. πŸ™‚

    See you at Pink Dot 2012! =)


  10. judeeee says

    Hi Peggy, I took your Pink Dot picture with the event details and shared it on my Facebook wall. Hope you wouldn’t mind (though LOL I’ve done it before I wrote to you) See you at Pink Dot! πŸ™‚


  11. Xigua says

    Trex, I think you are missing Peggy’s point. Pink Dot is an event that supports the freedom to love, a universal feeling. I don’t understand how it led you to evolution. But since it did, I like to point out the common misconception that procreation is often lump with love. As much as we all like to think it is, procreation is purely an action and love is a feeling. They do not need to co-exist even though ideally, it would be the best.

    The disabled may be more abled than many “normal people”. Who is to decide what abled is, where to draw the line between abnormal and normal? Science? Science is but another religion. Does the basis for procreation deem the LGBT community abnormal? If it is, I like to highlight the obvious that they are also endowed with the same equipment needed for the act and my god, if they wanted to procreate, they may well beat the “normal” people to it.

    When you decide who is normal and who isn’t, even if you are not for or against anything, you have already passed a judgement.

    Nobody is asking no one to deny the differences. There will always be differences, but we cannot decide who is normal and who is not simply because we have no basis for it, or simply because they are not like you, or not like the majority. People celebrate diversity by embracing what we all have in common.

    Love, is one of them.


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