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Loneliness x Solitude

Loneliness is a painful, negative state. It is where we feel alone, and cut off and estranged from other people. Thus, we may feel as if we are excluded, unwanted, unimportant or unnoticed. We can be surrounded by people we know and love and still experience feelings of intense loneliness. Loneliness feels like punishment or rejection. It is rooted in a sense of deficiency or inadequacy. It is something that depletes us, and is imposed on us. Loneliness can lead to self rejection, and even to self loathing and despair.

Solitude is a positive state. It is where we are perfectly happy to be by ourselves, and relish and enjoy our own company. Solitude can help us get in touch with, or engage with, our true self. It allows us to reflect on ourselves, others, our life, and our future. Often, solitude is a springboard to greater self-awareness, greater creativity, fresh insights, and new growth. Solitude is something we choose. It is something that restores and builds us up.

Solitude grounds us in who we are – and that enables us to reach out and give to others.

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You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.


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Peggy is an independent blogger from Singapore who has a penchant for impromptu travel plans and good caffe lattes. She is the co-owner of two little cafes, The Tiramisu Hero and Butter My Buns, and hopes to be able to see the world someday; one stop at a time.

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